Parenting Styles: Teachers v/s Parents 

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There is a huge difference between the parenting styles of parents and teachers. The common notion of a good teacher is that he is amiable and the only one who makes its students feel and understand the situation. However, the parent is generally considered as the one who transfer its self-held perception of the situation to its children which may or may not help the child to learn from the situation.

In order to make you understand the case very clearly, I am going to share the story of Bruce, age five, that had been shared by Haim Ginott, the child-rearing sage of the 1950s through '70s. 

He told the story of Bruce who went with his mother to his new kindergarten. When they arrived, Bruce looked up at the paintings on the wall and said, "who made those ugly pictures?" His mother rushed to correct him: " its not nice to call pictures ugly when they are so pretty." But his teacher knew exactly what he meant. "In here," she said, "you don't have to paint pretty pictures. You can paint mean pictures if you feel like it." Bruce gave her a big smile. She had answered his real question: What happens to a boy who doesn't paint well?

Next, Bruce spotted a broken fire engine. He picked it up and asked in a self-righteous tone, "Who broke this fire engine?" again his mother rushed in: "What difference does it make to you who broke it? you don't know anyone here." But the teacher understood. "Toys are for playing," she told him. " Sometimes they get broken. It happens." Again the question was answered: What happens to boys who break toys?

Bruce waved to his mother and went off to start his first day of kindergarten. This was not a place where he would be judged and labeled.

In the above mentioned story Ginott wanted to share us a parenting style of a parent who share its slef held perception of the situation to his child which mostly hinder the child's learning process and the teacher opted the professional style to comprehend the situation and made his students feel the lesson through answering each question.

It is therefore a suggestion to all the parents to opt professional method of learning the process about situation and try each time to convey a positive answer to the each question, so, the child could not only understand the situation but feel the behavior.